Cycle 10: November 18 to December 31, 2017

Week 1 Messages of the Week

Junior - Beginner

Message of the Week - SELF-CONTROL

This cycle we will be discussing strategies that will help develop Self-Control. A mighty person is one who has control over their emotions. Self-control is one of those things that is easy to talk about, but hard to demonstrate. Having self-control means to control your emotions and actions.

It is important to have self-control because good self-control = a good life. Bad self-control = a bad life. Our goal is to teach you practical ways of handling your emotions so you stay in control. Some examples of having good self-control are controlling your temper, sitting with your legs crossed and posture straight, staying focused on your teacher.

This week we will learn a special phrase that we can repeat to ourselves to remind us to use self-control, "A mighty person is one who has control over their emotions." Say this out loud a few times. By memorizing this phrase we can bring it to mind when we're in a situation that requires self-control.

Junior - Intermediate, Advanced & Black Belt


Long ago, in the Far East, lived an evil tyrant named Chang who ruled the people with an iron hand and without mercy. He brought great misery and suffering to every town and village he could conquer. There was one man named Khan Doo who refused to be enslaved. He gathered a small band of men who felt the same as he did and they bravely decided to attack the evil army of Chang.

Their bravery was no match for Chang’s huge army and fearing the battle was lost, Khan and his men retreated into the mountains followed by Chang’s army. Khan got separated from his men and hid in a cold cave tired and depressed. The future looked very dim and he fell into a restless sleep. He awoke and looked out from the cave in the early morning mist and noticed a spider spinning a web across the opening. Just before the spider was finished a strong gust of wind tore the web to pieces. Khan watched in fascination as the spider started all over again. Each time the spider was about to finish, a gust of wind would blow the web apart only for the spider to start all over again. Even though the spider failed many times against a force much greater than itself, he kept at it, knowing that he would eventually be successful.

Khan’s first attempt ended in failure, however he realized that he must persevere and try again! Inspired by a lowly spider, Khan jumped from the cave, assembled his men, and in a surprise attack defected Chang’s evil army that day. Khan became the new ruler, and all the people rejoiced. The perseverance and determination of the spider teaches a very important lesson– A Black Belt is simply a White Belt that never gave up!


Message of the Week - THE TWELVE DON’TS OF A BLACK BELT LEADER – Part 1

We generally discuss things that will help us become better leaders and be more successful. For the next several weeks, we are going to discuss actions that are detrimental. We call this The 12 Don’ts of a Black Belt Leader. This week we are going to talk about the first two don’ts.

The first is Don’t Argue. Generally speaking, when we argue we become emotional and don’t think clearly. As our emotions become heightened, and the likelihood of us saying or doing something that we might regret later increases dramatically. Also remember, winning an argument generally does not earn respect or strengthen friendships. Instead of arguing, try to stay calm and find a compromise.

The second is Don’t Blame. Blaming others generally means that you are unwilling to take responsibility for negative outcomes and be held accountable for your actions. Blaming also focuses on problems, rather than working toward solutions. Instead of blaming, accept responsibility for your actions and then try to make things right.

Blaming and arguing both are driven by emotion rather than reason. Try to recognize when you may be about to argue or blame someone, then before you react choose a more constructive direction instead. Watch for signals in the body like your heart rate increasing and your body feeling tense, this can serve as a reminder to deliberately choose to avoid emotional responses like arguing and blaming.