Cycle 6: June 29 to August 2, 2020
Week 2 Messages of the Week
Junior - Beginner
Message of the Week - SELF-CONTROL: Mind Over Emotion
This cycle we are discussing strategies that will help develop Self-Control. Having self-control means to control your emotions and actions. It is important to have self-control because good self-control = a good life. Bad self-control = a bad life. Our goal is to teach you practical ways of handling your emotions so you stay in control. Some examples of having good self-control are controlling your temper, sitting with your legs crossed and posture straight, staying focused on your teacher.
This week we are going to talk about what we can do with our mind when we become angry or afraid. Is anger good or bad? It depends on if you control it, or if it controls you. Is being afraid good or bad? Sometimes it is good; sometimes it is bad, depending on the situation.
Fear and Anger are two emotions that sometimes get us into trouble if we let them run wild and don’t control them. On the other hand, these two emotions can greatly benefit us if we use them the right way. Consider ways that fear can help you. Fear keeps you from doing foolish things like running across a busy street, climbing a tree on a windy day, or jumping off a cliff. Similarly there are ways that anger can help you. Anger can get you to take action. For example, you might say, “I can’t stand this dirty room, I’m going to clean it right now.”… Or you might say, “This report card makes me mad, I am going to study harder.”
There are some things we can do to improve our self-control. Typically people who get overly emotional usually make bad decisions compared to people who respond calmly. The next time you feel you are starting to lose your temper, stop whatever you are thinking about and try to view things from someone else's viewpoint.
For example, suppose your friend just took a toy that you were playing with - right out of your hand! Before you yell at him, think to yourself, “That toy isn’t worth fighting over. I’ll just calmly ask him to give it back and remind him to ask first next time.”
Junior - Intermediate, Advanced & Black Belt
Message of the Week - PROPER PLANNING PROMOTES PEAK PERFORMANCE
Consider the following story. Once there were two kids named Jason & Jerry. They were both Orange Belts. Every morning one of the things Jason asked his mother at breakfast was, “What is planned for today?” He liked knowing what was on the agenda for the day. This way he could think about it and be ready. For example, on Karate days he would get his uniform, belt, and other karate stuff ready ahead of time. He knew that if he had all his stuff ready, he could swim in the pool a little longer – and his mom didn’t get after him for being late and forgetting his stuff. He liked being ready!
Jerry took life as it came and relied on his Mom to tell him what to do next. Today he was having a wonderful time playing with his buddies in the pool and he was surprised that it was time to go to Karate already. He really didn’t want to get out of the pool, but his mom was upset with him for being late. So, in a big hurry, he started looking for his Karate stuff. He was also in a bad mood because he didn’t want to stop playing and didn’t like being scolded. Wouldn’t you know that while he was changing into his uniform in the car, he realized that he forgot his Karate belt at home…now he really didn’t want to go to Karate because it would be embarrassing without a belt. Jerry and his Mom argued about attending class however, his Mom made him go anyway. At the end of Karate class, Jerry realized that he had fun and he was glad he went.
• Which child had the funnest day? Why?
• Which child had more happiness at home and with his Mom?
• Does planning your day take time out of your day or does it make more time for the fun things?
Message of the Week - COVEY’S 7 HABITS: BEGIN WITH THE END IN MIND
“Beginning with the End in Mind” means developing a clear picture of where you want to go. This has a wide range of applications, from very small projects all the way to deciding how you live your life. You may not realize it, but you begin with the end in mind all the time. You draw up a blueprint before you build a house. You read a recipe before you bake a cake. In cases like this, it’s the obvious thing to do. But many people don’t take time to apply this same concept to how they live their lives. If you apply the “begin with the end in mind” concept to your life in the same way you’d apply it to any project, you’ll probably find yourself thinking about your values, goals, and priorities. And when you focus on these, the results are almost always positive.
This week consider ways you can “begin with the end in mind” for achieving all of your life’s goals.