Cycle 6: July 2 to August 5, 2018

Week 3 Messages of the Week

Junior - Beginner

Message of the Week - SELF-CONTROL: Body Over Emotion


This cycle we are discussing strategies that will help develop Self-Control. Having self-control means to control your emotions and actions. It is important to have self-control because good self-control = a good life. Bad self-control = a bad life. Our goal is to teach you practical ways of handling your emotions so you stay in control. Some examples of having good self-control are controlling your temper, sitting with your legs crossed and posture straight, staying focused on your teacher.

This week we are going to talk about what we can do with our body, when we become angry or afraid, to make us feel better. Have you ever gotten mad at your mom, dad, sister, brother, or friend and said or did something you regretted later on? We all have. Chances are, when we get angry we let our emotions get the best of us. Remember, there are two things a Martial Artist never does when they are angry. They never speak out of anger and they never strike out of anger. Repeat this to yourself, “Never speak out of anger and never strike out of anger.”

Here are some strategies for what can we do the next time we get angry to keep ourselves from doing something we will regret later. First, when someone is angry their body usually shows it–their shoulders are shrugged, their head is forward, and they are scowling. When someone is angry they usually breathe in quick, shallow breaths. Now let's review how someone stands when they are calm and confident. They usually hold their shoulders back, their head up, and they have a slight smile on their face.

Next time you find yourself angry, bring your shoulders back, lift your chin up, smile, and take ten long, slow, deep breaths while saying “Relax” to yourself. It is almost impossible to stay mad when you stand and breathe this way.

This week practice going from mad to calm by changing the way you stand, holding your body, and how you are breathing.

Junior - Intermediate, Advanced & Black Belt

Message of the Week - COURTESY


Consider the following story. Once there were two children. One always rushed to be first in line, or pushed her way to the best seats, or manipulated others to get what she wanted. The other would pause for a moment and hold the door for another person and was always concerned that whatever game they were playing was fair for everyone. The second child almost always said please and thank you while the first child rarely did.

Now ask yourself the following questions:
• Which child would be the first one to help clean up a mess?
• Which child would be considered rude?
• Which child felt the best about herself?
• Which child had the most confidence?
• Which one would you prefer to have as a friend?
• Which child was more likely to be honest?
• Which child would you trust the most?

Our actions tell a lot about us. In fact a person's behavior is the most reliable indicator of one's true character.

Adult

Message of the Week - QUALITIES OF A CHAMPION: TIMING AND PUNCTUALITY


This week we are going to discuss another quality of Martial Arts champions; timing, and its parallel life quality, punctuality. In order to become a Martial Arts champion, one must develop near-perfect timing. During a real or simulated confrontation, there is no time to think. Every move has to hit the right target at the right time. Even more difficult is having the right timing with defensive skills since you have to react instantly to be effective.

By the same token, to become a champion in life, we must develop the habit of punctuality through the discipline of managing our time. It has been said that “it’s better to be a half hour early than one minute late.” This is because punctuality is a reflection of your integrity. Being where you say you will be, when you said you’d be there also demonstrates your respect for the person you’re meeting. So, let’s develop a sense of punctuality in our daily lives, just as we develop good timing in our Martial Arts.

This week recall a time when you were late for an important event. Consider how you felt about being late. Consider how the other person you were meeting with felt.