Cycle 3: March 18 to April 21, 2019
Week 1 Messages of the Week
Junior - Beginner
Message of the Week - Good Habits
In this cycle we will be discussing some strategies that will help you develop good habits. What do you think it means to have good habits? Here are some examples: Do what you’re supposed to do, when you’re supposed to do it, eat good foods, brush your teeth, clean your room, and do your homework. It is important to develop good habits because they make life easier. Having bad habits can make life hard.
“Good habits are hard to make, but easy to live with. Bad habits are easy to make, but hard to live with.” It takes a conscious, deliberate effort to develop good habits. It is hard to develop self-discipline. It is hard to stay focused and not get sidetracked. It takes courage to always be responsible for your actions. It takes effort to learn to be non-judgmental. If you can develop these habits, life will be easier, more fun, and more rewarding. The opposite is also true, it is easy to be lazy and sloppy and not try hard. In the long run, these bad habits will hold you back and keep you from enjoying a great life.
This cycle we will learn a special phrase that we can repeat to ourselves to help us develop good habits, “Good habits are hard to make, but easy to live with. Bad habits are easy to make, but hard to live with.” Say this out loud a few times. By memorizing this phrase we can bring it to mind when we're in a situation where we need to apply self-discipline, focus, and courage, which will develop good habits.
Junior - Intermediate, Advanced & Black Belt
Message of the Week - PICK YOUR BATTLES (EXCUSE THE LITTLE THINGS)
Pope John Paul once said, “See everything, overlook a lot, and correct a little.”
Consider the following story. There was a group of boys that knew Jerry could not handle being teased. In fact, if someone called him a silly name, it would start a fight. Now, these other kids were somewhat mean and they looked for ways to get Jerry in trouble. Therefore, they would wait until the teacher was not looking and do something mean to Jerry. The teacher would then catch Jerry and he would get in trouble. If the teacher did not stop the confrontation, it would turn into a fight. Jerry always blamed the other kids and never took the responsibility for his actions.
Jerry’s parents took him to a Martial Arts school to teach him how to defend himself. His instructor talked about “picking your battles”, to overlook all the name-calling and teasing, and to save the fighting for a time when he found himself in real danger of getting physically hurt. His karate teacher also told him that if he continued to get into fights, he could not come to karate anymore.
So Jerry pretended not to hear the teasing and name-calling. It was very hard because the teasing hurt his feelings, but when the other boys learned that they could not get Jerry mad, it stopped being fun to tease him. Eventually the teasing stopped and now that Jerry was not always getting into trouble, other kids started including him more. Next thing he knew, Jerry had a lot more friends. As he earned new belts in his Karate classes, he noticed that the bullies who called names and teased him, only teased others because they did not feel good about themselves. He told this to his Martial Arts teacher who was impressed with Jerry’s new level of maturity. He told Jerry that sometimes the schoolyard bullies get stuck and become bullies as adults. He told Jerry that he was lucky that he learned how to handle bullies at such a young age!
Message of the Week - COMMUNICATION SKILLS: EFFECTIVE TEAM COMMUNICATION - PART 1
1) Be Loyal To Those Not Present – No one likes to be talked about behind their back. This can also make those who ARE present uncomfortable as well.
2) Do More Than Your Fair Share – We’ve all experienced the impact on a team when people start saying, “That’s not my job.” But when everyone adopts a “whatever it takes” attitude, teams become highly productive.
3) Be Dependable – Get in the habit of being where you are supposed to be, when you are supposed to be there, and ready to do the job. When everyone on a team does this, the team becomes a well oiled machine.
4) Anticipate Your Partner’s Next Move – Good teammates think ahead and are ready for whatever the next steps may be.
5) Don’t Vent – Nothing is worse for morale than whining or venting to people who aren’t in a position to solve the problem. When you have a legitimate concern, go to the source and then explain your viewpoint in a logical, unemotional manner and work toward a constructive, collaborative solution.
If you really do have a legitimate complaint about a team member, and you have tried to resolve it directly with that person without success, a good next step might be to suggest going to the group leader to ask for help with the issue that you’re having a hard time resolving. Avoid directly blaming or accusing the other person involved. When approached this way, good team leaders will usually be able to help work though the situation.