Cycle 4: April 23 to May 27, 2018
Week 5 Messages of the Week
Junior - Beginner
Message of the Week - Good Attitude: Being Loyal to Those Not Present
What does it mean to have a good attitude? Simply put a good attitude means to obey cheerfully and be polite. Why is a good attitude important? When we have a good attitude we will be more successful, have more friends, and our parents will be proud of us. This week we are going to talk about being loyal to those who are not around us. Loyalty is one of the most important qualities we can have. It means being true to your family, friends and others, even when they are not present. Loyalty means to never speak badly about someone, because it is the wrong thing to do and it will certainly get back to the person you are talking about.
Consider the following example: There once was a girl named Beth who always always talked about what she didn’t like about other people when they weren't around. One day Beth was talking with Sally and telling her everything wrong about her friend, Janet. When Janet saw the two of them talking she came up to them. Immediately, Beth started talking bad about Billy. Not long after Billy came over, immediately Beth started talking bad about Jim, and so on…
Based on the story we can see that Beth is not loyal to others. Each of Beth's friends experienced her talking bad about another friend when they weren't around. From this we can assume that Beth really can't be trusted to be loyal in other areas of life either.
You can demonstrate loyalty by speaking well about people when they are not around. You can also demonstrate loyalty by not letting others speak badly about others around you.
For example, let’s pretend that someone told you that they think, “Sherman wears goofy clothes.” Or that “He is a real nerd.”
You could say:
“I’m sure he has a good reason for wearing that outfit and I think he is O.K.” or...
“Maybe he is just a little different from you and me – I’ll bet he’s smart” or...
“I would appreciate it if you would stop speaking badly about him. He doesn’t deserve it.”
If one of your friends talks badly about another friend to you, that friend probably talks badly about you when you’re not around. This gives you a choice – either help your friend to develop positive character skills like loyalty, or choose a different friend. This week consider what you say when you're with friends and practice showing loyalty to those fiends not around by only speaking well of them.
Junior - Intermediate, Advanced & Black Belt
Message of the Week - WINNERS NEVER QUIT
Someone once said, “Winners never Quit and Quitters never win.”
The greatest story ever told about winning is a little story about a race between two animals. This race was between a rabbit and a turtle. I’m sure you can guess it’s “The Tortoise and The Hare.”
Let’s examine why the tortoise won the race. You see, most people who quit trick themselves by doing what the hare did… they tell themselves that they aren’t quitting but they are going to “take a little break”. Do you think the tortoise wanted to take a break? He probably did… The tortoise probably also knew that one of the hardest parts of accomplishing any worthy goal is getting started…and once started, a winner just keeps on keeping on.
“The Tortoise and The Hare” is a great metaphor for earning a black belt. The person who methodically attends two or three classes per week, every week, always gets to black belt before the person who attends everyday and has to take time off two or three times a year. Think about some areas in your life where you are holding back or taking a little break. Think of some way to help get yourself back on track.
Message of the Week - FRIENDLY ON PURPOSE: Recap Weeks 1 - 4
For the last 4 weeks we have been discussing the concept of being “Friendly on Purpose.” This week we are going to review the topics that were covered during this time.
Week 1: Polite Greeting
The rules of three for a polite greeting are
1. Make eye contact and smile
2. Give a firm handshake
3. Speak in a clear, friendly voice
Week 2: Be Happy To See Them
The concept of “Being happy to see them” refers to making a conscious choice to show your excitement about seeing someone.
Week 3: Make Them Feel important
The best way to practice making people feel important is to ask them questions about themselves and then sincerely listen to their answers.
Week 4: Never Underestimate The Value Of A Smile
Quite simply, a smile is contagious. If you want to change the energy in the room, smile.