Cycle 9: October 14 to November 17, 2019

Week 5 Messages of the Week

Junior - Beginner, Intermediate, Advanced & Black Belt, and Adults

Done With Bullying Week 5: Buddying, not Bullying


In this cycle we’ve discussed what bullying is and isn’t, how to recognize it, and how to avoid it. We’ve detailed what to do if you are being bullied, and what to do if you see it happening to others. This week we want to cover what you can do help stop bullying before it even starts.

You can start "Buddying."
Buddying is done by practicing acts of kindness. It is the exact opposite of bullying. You see, strength and kindness go together. Truly strong people are kind and they practice buddying all the time.

There are lots of different reasons to practice buddying. To begin with, it is the right thing to do. It's actually very fun to do as well. You only have to try surprising someone with an act of kindness once to see how good it feels. When you do something nice for someone else, there is a special natural chemical released in your body called serotonin. Serotonin gives you a sense of well-being. It makes you feel good. What is also interesting is that when someone else does something nice for you, their serotonin level, or their “feeling good,” also rises. On top of that, when a bystander sees one person doing something nice for someone else, their serotonin level rises. Everyone benefits from buddying.

• Think of a time when you did something nice for someone. Recall how you felt afterwards. You probably felt pretty good.
• Think of a time when someone did something nice for you. Recall how you felt afterwards. You probably felt pretty good, again.
• Buddying is going out of your way to make someone else feel good about themselves.

Below are some ways you can practice buddying…
You can... let someone else go first
You can... compliment someone for a job well done
You can... ask someone who is sitting alone to join you at lunch
You can... surprise someone with a small gift just because
You can... hold the door open for a classmate
You can... help your teacher keep the class clean
You can... help someone with their homework
You can... ask how someone's day was and then really listen
You can... write a note to a classmate telling them what you like about them
You can... let someone else pick the game you are going to play

Once you get in the habit of buddying, you will start to see the true power it brings. It is completely different than the false, temporary sense of power that bullying might bring. Buddying is contagious. It starts with you. So the next time you’re feeling down, or if you are ever tempted to bully someone, catch yourself and think... how can I buddy them instead? You will be glad you did... and so will they.

During this cycle, we have been learning the Anti-Bullying Pledge. Repeat this to yourself several times throughout the week.

Anti-Bullying Pledge

I believe everyone has the right to feel safe
I will commit to standing strong against bullying
I will treat others with respect and kindness
I have the compassion to not be a bully
And the courage to not be a bystander
It is my responsibility to help others who are being bullied
And to report bullying when I see it or when it happens to me
I will not stand by. I will stand up