Cycle 4: April 22 to May 26, 2019
Week 5 Messages of the Week
Junior - Beginner
Message of the Week - SELF-CONTROL: Words Over Emotion
This cycle we are discussing strategies that will help develop Self-Control. Having self-control means to control your emotions and actions. It is important to have self-control because good self-control = a good life. Bad self-control = a bad life. Our goal is to teach you practical ways of handling your emotions so you stay in control. Some examples of having good self-control are controlling your temper, sitting with your legs crossed and posture straight, staying focused on your teacher.
This week we are going to talk about how to use our words to change our emotions. We call this "Transformational Vocabulary" which is about using words to make our life richer and more powerful. When we are angry, we tend to use angry words. Using angry words usually makes us, and those around us, even angrier. And this only makes things worse. Most of the time we can change the way we feel by changing the words we use. When we do this it is called “Transformational Vocabulary” and it is very useful in helping us control our emotions.
You can practice using Transformational Vocabulary by replacing strong, negative words and phrases with words that express more positive emotion. What you say and how you say it can actually take you from being “extremely mad” to a “little irritated.” It works because what we say actually helps determine how we feel. For example, you could say: “I am super mad at my brother,” or “I am a little annoyed with my brother.” Which way would it make it easier to gain control of your emotions?
Below are some more examples of using Transformational Vocabulary, What would happen if you said:
- Slightly Annoyed instead of Mad - would it make you happier or sadder?
- A Little Irritated instead of Ticked Off - would it make you happier or sadder?
- Disappointed instead of Heartbroken - would it make you happier or sadder?
- Fascinated instead of Frustrated - would it make you happier or sadder?
You can also make Neutral or Positive Words even Stronger, What would happen if you said:
- Great instead of Okay - would it make you happier or sadder?
- Awesome instead of Pretty Good - would it make you happier or sadder?
- Getting Better instead of Alright - would it make you happier or sadder?
This week concentrate on what you say and how you say it. Try to find a happier, stronger way to express your emotions. Watch what it does to your emotions and the emotions of other people around you.
Junior - Intermediate, Advanced & Black Belt
Message of the Week - OPTIMISM
One of those funny things about life is that we usually find what we are looking for… It was once said that we reap what we sow. An optimist will see the positive side. A pessimist will see the negative.
Consider the following example. Once there were two kids and they were very thirsty. They each went into the kitchen at home and their moms poured them a half a glass of lemonade. Was this glass half full or was it half empty? The first kid was an optimist. He looked at everything positively and thought that the glass was half full; the second kid was a pessimist. He could only see things in a negative way and thought the glass was half empty. Now these moms loved their kids very, very much! Which child felt that mom didn’t love him? Which child felt loved?
Ultimately, both the pessimist and the optimist are correct. However the consequences of their thinking are worlds apart. In reality, the glass is both half full and half empty. How we choose to look at things affects our mood and our actions. Which in turn, affects those around us. It affects how we relate to those we love and who chooses to be our friends.
Let’s take a look at the popular childhood “Winnie – the – Pooh” stories. There was Winnie the Pooh, Piglet, Christopher Robin, Owl, Tigger, and Eeyore. Which one of these characters was the most fun to be around? Which one was the grumpiest? If you had to pick one of these characters to be your best friend, which one would you pick first? Which one would you pick last? Why? Which one are you most like?
Message of the Week - FRIENDLY ON PURPOSE: Recap Weeks 1 - 4
For the last 4 weeks we have been discussing the concept of being “Friendly on Purpose.” This week we are going to review the topics that were covered during this time.
Week 1: Polite Greeting
The rules of three for a polite greeting are
1. Make eye contact and smile
2. Give a firm handshake
3. Speak in a clear, friendly voice
Week 2: Be Happy To See Them
The concept of “Being happy to see them” refers to making a conscious choice to show your excitement about seeing someone.
Week 3: Make Them Feel important
The best way to practice making people feel important is to ask them questions about themselves and then sincerely listen to their answers.
Week 4: Never Underestimate The Value Of A Smile
Quite simply, a smile is contagious. If you want to change the energy in the room, smile.